Welcome to Grief Recovery UK
If you’re feeling bereft, or you wish to help someone who is, then you’ve found the right place. Here at Grief Recovery (UK) we recognise that grief is the normal and natural reaction to loss whether that loss has been brought about by a death of someone important in your life, the end of a relationship, or one of the over 40 significant life events that invoke grief.
On this site you will find more information about the various ways in which you can help yourself using the Grief Recovery Method. There a series of useful articles & videos on specific grief related issues.
If your work regularly brings you into contact with grievers then you will love the Grief Recovery Method Certification Training. This comprehensive package is a mix of classroom training, practical experience, learning materials and on-going individual support. Hugely popular with funeral directors, clergy (regardless of which faith), therapists and counsellors and many other professionals the programme is recognised by dozens of professional bodies around the world. In the UK so far it is endorsed by the BACP for 30 hours CPD and by the Training Development Agency for schools (TDA)
Many grievers having experienced just how little useful help there is out there for people like them also go onto train as Grief Recovery Method Specialists in order to bring this highly effective programme to even more people.
The Grief Recovery Method developed by John W James and Russell Friedman founders of the Grief Recovery Institute in the USA has helped many tens of thousands of people around the world but what is it?
Because grief is such a misunderstood and little talked about topic it may be easier to start by saying what the Grief Recovery Method isn’t:
It’s not counselling.
It’s not therapy.
It’s not an alternative treatment
While any of the above routes may be of some little or great benefit, they mainly offer a path to discovery of the thoughts and feelings you have around the loss in your life. However, here at Grief Recovery (UK) we maintain that discovery is not the same as recovery.
The Grief Recovery Method is an action plan. It is a series of small steps that when taken, in order, by the griever it leads to the completion of all the unresolved business linked to the loss. There are a number of ways in which you can learn the Grief Recovery Method for yourself or you can learn how to teach it to others by becoming a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist.
Grief is defined as the “conflicting emotions that follow the ending or change in familiar patterns of behaviour.” This complex emotional state has nothing to do with our intellect. We cannot rationalise ourselves better. Therefore any “treatment” that appeals to our heads and not our hearts is doomed to fail.
“When your heart is broken your spirit cannot soar”
The problem is that as a society we teach our children as were taught – how important it is to “get” things and how to go about “getting” things – a job, a car, a boy or girl friend, a career, a house etc but there is no useful information or tools on what to do when we lose something. Think about it – what lessons did you learn growing up when something bad happened? Chances are it’ll be the 6 myths (or variations on them) that Russell and John talk about in these videos.