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Posted on 2nd April 2020 at 10:55
You might be forgiven for thinking that our name, Grief Recovery is aimed at people dealing with bereavement. However, it seemed fitting at this time to reach out to everyone who is in lockdown, quarantine, isolated on their own, or is having to go out to work.
In this unprecedented time, we’re all experiencing the loss of our lives, routines, work, family, friends, freedom.
There is also a huge fear factor; fear of the unknown, fear of catching the virus, fear of others, and fear of the loss of control. Coming to terms with this is not something we’re used to.
Your Behaviour is Telling You Something
A few of the behaviours that most of us have become aware of include not having much energy, a shorter temper than normal, and a lack of concentration. Or we've found ourselves keeping busier than usual - mainly in the kitchen, baking, hitting the chocolate stash, or trying to cook for the family with a mixture of unusual ingredients, resembling an episode of Ready, Steady, Cook!
Why are we comparing your feelings to grief? Let us explain. Grief is the normal and natural reaction to loss of any kind. Therefore, the feelings you are having are also normal and natural for you. Let's say it again, because you need to hear it; what you’re experiencing is a normal and natural reaction to loss.
Grief is Normal
The problem is that we have all been programmed to think and believe that these feelings are abnormal and unnatural. We’re taught how to acquire things but not what to do when we lose them.
We're going to be posting about COVID-19 and the changes in our lives as often as we can, and while these posts are free information for you, we want you to do something for yourself. It’s in two parts. After all, The Grief Recovery Method is the ACTION programme for moving beyond loss, so here’s the action bit!
Tips for Coping with Symptoms of Grief During Lockdown
1. Be emotionally honest with yourself. How are you coping? How are you really feeling?
One of our Grief Recovery Specialists from Devon, Maria Bailey, shared the following: "I’m grateful that I’m at home with my family. I’m feeling anxious. I’m not coping at all well with the thought of leaving my home, for the fear of catching COVID-19 and infecting my family. Even the Postman and delivery people coming onto our property feel like I could be putting us at risk. I’ve become a bit neurotic about cleaning everything. I’m loving the new routine of doing PE with Joe Wicks in the morning and I’m finding it’s lifting my mood. I’m missing my friends and family, I’m missing school. I’m also concerned about the impact on my children."
2. Find someone you can talk to, who you can talk to without judgement. Being heard is particularly important for grievers. (Yes, you are a griever!). The chances are, they need to be heard, too. You go first and tell them how you’re really feeling. Then let them tell you how they’re feeling, as well. Just be present and let them have their say without interruption, without trying to fix them. Think of yourself as a ‘heart with ears.’
Have you seen our Top 5 tips for living through lockdown?
Take a look at our 5-point Plan for how to cope, improve your relationships and start feeling better today:
2. Be present
5. Say goodbye
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Would you like to speak to someone or are considering a Grief Recovery programme? Click here to find an online Specialist who can help you right away.
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