As Lockdown measures ease some more, there are reports predicting that vast amounts of people are planning on moving around the country, driving to the coast, going to the pubs and restaurants, and staying away from home. This is causing new levels of anxiety for some; more anxiety that when we went into Lockdown. We’re all in unknown territory once again, experiencing the loss of everything we were getting used to in our new normal. 
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Loss of safety and anxiety 

This new layer of anxiety is about loss of safety. You may have witnessed a variety of unusual, passive-aggressive behaviours in people who think you’re too close when you pass on the pavement. You may have experienced someone not observing social distancing measures at all, while they lean over you to reach the baked beans in the supermarket, leading to you feeling exposed. 
While you can’t control the behaviour of others, you can take stock of your own feelings. 

What can you do about it? 

Be emotionally honest with yourself. How are you coping? How are you really feeling? 
Acknowledge how you’re feeling. Labelling your fears, such as anger, worries, etc will take the sting out of them. 
Take five minutes to yourself. Close your eyes, try not to think about anything and just focus on breathing, for grievers. (Yes, you are a griever!). 
Find someone you can talk to without judgement. Being heard is particularly important when you’re feeling scared, anxious, or at a loss. The chances are, they need to be heard, too. You go first and tell them how you're really feeling. Then let them tell you how they're feeling, as well. Just be present and let them have their say without interruption, without trying to fix them. Think of yourself as a 'heart with ears.' You can thank your listener below, too. 
If you’re listening to someone you care about, it’s only natural that you don’t want to see them feeling sad or anxious. However, if you’re not sure if they want your advice or not, you could always ask questions such as: ‘Is there anything I can do to help, or do you need to just talk about it?’ or ‘Would you like some help to come up with some solutions?’ 

How we can help 

Grief UK is an education and training organisation that teaches The Grief Recovery Method, the only evidence-based* grief programme globally that gives people the tools and skills to learn how to move beyond death, divorce, and other losses. 
Our eight-part programme is now available for hour-long, one-to-one sessions via Zoom with our Advanced Certified Grief Recovery Specialists, who can be found here
Once restrictions are lifted, we have specialists around the country who can offer face-to-face support for one-to-one and group sessions. 
We also have a book, The Grief Recovery Handbook, which can be purchased here. 
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